The author is Jo Horne.
I HAVE THE RIGHT
To take care of myself. This is not an act of selfishness.
It will give me the capability of taking better care of my loved one.
To seek help from others even though my loved ones may object.
I recognize the limits of my own endurance and strength.
To maintain facets of my own life that do not include the person I care for,
just as I would if he or she were healthy.
I know that I do everything that I reasonably can for this person,
and I have the right to do some things just for myself.
To get angry, be depressed, and express
other difficult feelings occasionally.
To reject any attempts by my loved one (either conscious or unconscious)
to manipulate me through guilt, and/or depression.
To receive consideration, affection, forgiveness, and acceptance for what I do
from my loved ones, for as long as I offer these qualities in return.
To take pride in what I am accomplishing and to applaud the courage
it has sometimes taken to meet the needs of my loved one.
To protect my individuality and my right to make a life for myself that will
sustain me in the time when my loved one no longer needs my full-time help.
To expect and demand that as new strides are made in finding resources to
aid physically and mentally impaired persons in our country,
similar strides will be made toward aiding and supporting caregivers.
(by Erin Waterman)
I HAVE A RIGHT
To maintain my connection to the natural world even when my caregiving responsibilities
make this challenging.
To bring the healing powers of nature into nature-disconnected spaces like hospitals,
in the form of images or sounds where plants and animals may not be allowed.
To take at least a 15-minute walk outdoors each and every day,
even if this means seeking volunteers to be with my loved one.
To follow my natural attractions in nature and allow them to teach and nurture me.
To breathe deeply in concert with a tree/trees.
To give my sorrows over to the natural world to be absorbed.